I owe @Stratman323 a heartfelt apology
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knh555
Most Honored Senior Member
I poke around on other forums and this is about the only one I see this sort of self-correction. For that alone, I'm very happy to be here and see your apology. Your contrition comes off as genuine whatever the original offense, which I did not witness. That's what I, and I believe many others here, are responding to.
Very few internet forums show this sort of honorable behavior. I spend time on a sailing forum where people take pride in being a**hats, including the owner/editor. I only stay b/c there are good people with healthy discussions, but the noise makes me wonder sometimes. I don't wonder that at Strat-Talk.
So where is Stratman323 — last post was Wednesday at 5:03 PM..... did you actually run him off? (seems impossible)
FrieAsABird
Senior Stratmaster
So? It’s still a nice gesture, no need to talk it down.
You missed my point. I meant that there was a time when an apology wasn’t such a big deal, it just came naturally and wasn’t just considered a nice gesture . I wasn’t talking the OP down, I mentioned that he has integrity.
rolandson
Dr. Stratster
What I wrote was thoughtless and petty...not the kind of person that I wish to be.
Because the insult was public, so too the mia culpa. Otherwise it would be without value to the injured.
And for @stratman323 to be made whole, the mia culpa has to have value.
Because the insult was public, so too the mia culpa. Otherwise it would be without value to the injured.
And for @stratman323 to be made whole, the mia culpa has to have value.
I hope not. That would be inexcusable.
Well I missed the brouhaha you're referring to (none of my biz anyway). Assuming you've tried to PM him, has he not responded to you privately?
rolandson
Dr. Stratster
It's not required that he respond but yes, I've extended my remorse both publicly and privately. I would be surprised had he not relegated me to the cornfield. But as I behaved badly in public, I owe him that level of respect.
It takes a real man to offer a real apology when warranted.
I hereby apologize to everyone I have offended. You know who you are.
The truth is I love the heck out of all of you!
I missed the thing, I appreciate good manners
Peace
Peace
Butcher of Strats
Most Honored Senior Member
Well right, count the number of times “words are exchanged” on forums then the number of times we see a genuine apology.
In life, or maybe in hindsight, it is not about never making a misstep as much as handling them with integrity or kindness or whatever applies.
stratman323
Dr. Stratster
Don't worry about it everybody. The whole thread concerned had turned into a bit of a car crash. We should all have known better than to get involved, me included. I simply pulled back for a few days. No harm done.
But I do appreciate the fact that someone apologised. It's a rare thing online & I appreciate it, even though this thread wasn't necessary. It makes someone seem like a much bigger & better person when they say things like that. Thank you, but no apology necessary.
All cool
stratman323
Dr. Stratster
rolandson
Dr. Stratster
It is for me. My sense of right and wrong demands nothing less.
...moving on then....
Hmm. I apologize all the time. Hell, I just apologized for being what I thought was rude to a guy like 2 days ago. Turns out he had no idea why I was even apologizing to him. No problem. Thankfully, now I don't feel guilty for being what I thought was rude and aggressive.
Not the first and definitely won't be the last time. Petty sure I've apologized to multiple people here and have even made apology posts because I had been rude to people.
In fact, the very first person I apologized to here was @Guitarmageddon only a few days after I joined. I didn't know he was on the autism spectrum and I took one of his replies the wrong way. And I spent the next few days thinking about how rude I had been, so I apologized. Ironically, he had no idea why I was apologizing, either lol. No matter. It still did the job and I didn't feel crappy about it anymore.
It's really not that uncommon, IMO.
I, personally, apologize because I'm in a bad mood a lot due to a tragic and personal loss I still haven't gotten over and likely never will. And it comes out in my posts sometimes if I don't actively keep it at bay. Not making excuses. Only explaining why it happens.
PonyB
Most Honored Senior Member
It's not a contest.
crankmeister
Most Honored Senior Member
It requires character to apologize publicly after insulting publicly.
stratman323
Dr. Stratster
Unless she is a real woman, of course.
As for this place generally, it's a distinct improvement that, after a flare up or a "row", there are no longer several dead bodies lying around after some brutal kickings from the list owner, as used to happen. The present way of doing things seems like a much better way, IMHO. In this case the offending thread seems to have been deleted without any of that, which is good.
stratman323
Dr. Stratster
Uncalled for. He wasn't suggesting that it was.
